Today I am sad…

Today I am sad and I haven’t blogged in a really really long time and that is because something kinda bad happened to me a few weeks ago…

I broke up with my boyfriend of two years a short while ago and I was absolutely devastated. As this was my first relationship I feel like it has affected me a lot more than another relationship break-up would. However, after doing a lot of thinking about this things that have happened to me over the past few years I decided that I would try and take something positive from this whole situation.

Over the past two years I have met so many amazing people (including my ex), I have got over halfway through my degree which I never thought I would manage and I have grown so much as a person because of all the good and bad things that have happened to me.

Although I am still very, very sad about losing one of the most important people in my life I am doing ok. I still miss him everyday and I wish I could go back and change everything that happened but I am a firm believer that everything in life happens for a reason. Did I love him with all of my heart? Yes. Did I see myself spending the rest of my life with this person? Absolutely. But was it meant to be? Clearly not. For whatever reason our relationship had to end. I still don’t know why but I know that although at the time it felt like the end of the world and that I would never find anyone who I could love as much as him, I am still so young. I have my whole life ahead of me and so does he. Maybe some day our paths will cross but for now our stories must drift apart.

I would never wish this pain that I am feeling upon my worst enemy because losing someone who is such a big part of your life just leaves this black, empty space in your heart. We need to fill that space with positivity and love for what we haven’t lost. I am in no way saying that the person can be replaced but what is past is past and we cannot change it. I still have the most amazing friends who have helped me so much with everything. My family love me, I’m doing so well in a degree that I was convinced I was going to fail at the beginning of the year.

Going through break-ups are never going to be easy but with time and surrounding yourself with the people you love you can and will move on. I still have such a long way to go but I now at least feel confident that the world is not against me and I am on the right path.


Abbie ♥

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Tips for Moving Out

Going to uni for me meant that I was going to be living pretty much on my own for the next three to four years and that was a pretty scary situation! Obviously this was the first time I was moving out of my family home and I was moving an hour away in a city I’d barely ever been to before. It’s not all nerves and fear though. Moving out for the first time, whether it be in university residence or your first flat or house is so exciting! You get so much more independence but with that comes more responsibilities. You don’t have mum and dad to pick up after you anymore so it’s not all fun and games.

Tip 1 – Money

I’m going to start with the more serious stuff so we can get that out of the way… The first thing that springs to mind for me when moving out is money. Now that you live on your own you have full responsibility of your finances so you NEED to plan. Spending money left, right and center without checking up on it will leave you in a very sticky situation and I personally hate having to ask for money from my parents. The whole point of me moving out when I went to uni was so I could learn and experience real life with as little help from my parents as possible. Luckily I have always been a saver rather than a spender so I had a fair amount of money in my bank when I came to uni but that has dropped significantly! Unless you have a job you can expect to spend a lot of money when your come to uni because you’ll have no incomes. Yes you may have a little from a student loan but it’s not much, believe me!

Tip 2 – Organisation

It’s important to know where you stand with everything you have to do when you live alone and something that really helped me was a wall calendar. I always get a wall calendar for Christmas but I’d never really used one properly until I moved out. Mine comes with little re-usable stickers you can pop on to highlight the most important dates like essay deadlines or appointments. Make sure you fill out as much as you can when you first get it then you can consult it easily. I use mine most for uni stuff as it’s a huge reminder on my wall of impending exams or tests but you can use it for doctors or adding in holidays. Plus the stickers mean you don’t even have to write anything down. having a calendar or diary really helped me to organise when I was going to do things and how far in advance I had to prepare for them. It made me so much more calm about deadlines and meant I never missed anything.

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Tip 3 – Storage

Whether it be your own apartment or student halls, my guess is that you’re going to be in quite a small space when you first move out and there isn’t going to be that much storage there. A small lifesaver for me was these boxes.

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I got them from Home Bargains but they are so so handy for putting into drawers to section off and maximize the space in there. They’re a really cheap way of ensuring you have enough room for all your things. On that note, don’t take too much with you! Take this opportunity to de-clutter you belongings and have a fresh start. If you’re anything like me who tends to hoard things then moving out is the perfect time to go through your stuff and figure out what you don’t need.

♥  (Side tip – Turn all your clothes hangers backwards and whenever you wear something turn it back the right way. Any clothes still left backwards, give to charity or sell them. Maybe even use the money you make to buy some nice new ones that you’ll actually wear.)

Tip 4 – Cooking

When I left for uni I had barely cooked a thing in my life and pasta was pretty much the only thing in on my recipe cards but that can get very boring after a while. My roommates decided it would be best to cook meals together that we’d never cooked before. Not only did this help us to learn new recipes but it also allowed to to split the cost of our evening meals and made it a little cheaper. That’s so handy when you’re on a budget and you can help each other learn the skills your need. I’d also recommend buying a student cookbook or a slow cooker. Even if you aren’t a student, student cookbooks have really easy to make recipes that are relatively cheap but really tasty. Slow cookers mean you can just throw all the ingredients into the cooker in the morning and by the time you get home later you’ve got a lovely meal waiting for you.

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Tip 5 – Cosy Bedroom

For me, having a nice, cosy place to go when I need to relax was essential. I filed my bedroom with fairy lights and pictures of memories and people that mean the most to me to give me a piece of home.


I hope these tips help you as they really did make moving out that little bit easier for me.

Abbie ♥

Blogging is Hard

The main reason I started this blog was because it was suggested to me by a careers adviser. She told me that because I’m interested in journalism and media that it would be a good idea for me to have a blog where I could practice writing and get some work in my portfolio. I wanted my blog to be a place where I could write my thoughts and feelings on everyday topics, ideas and events. Sort of like a diary, but a diary that people would read.

The thing is… I haven’t really had any thoughts and feelings recently that I would want people to read. Obviously as someone who is interested in making their writing eventually lead to something professional I want my blog to be readable and not just full of something I randomly threw together in a few minutes.

I know that a blog is a place where you can go to just be creative and let your ideas flow but what if no ideas flow… what if there’s no creativity this time?

That got me thinking about my future career and how a lot of my work will depend on my ability to be creative and find a story that I can write about day in, day out. The thought excites me as I’ve never been the type of person who could sit in an office all day and copy from a spreadsheet. I want to be out there doing things. I want to make my brain work. Yes, blogging is sometimes hard but its helping me and setting me up for a career that I know that I am going to love and enjoy. It’s allowing me to get a tiny glimpse into the kind of challenges I get the privilege of overcoming.


Thanks for reading this very short, very random spurt of thoughts but I haven’t posted most of the week because I was lacking these random spurts…

Abbie ♥

I can’t sleep

I set up this blog so that I had somewhere to write my thoughts and feelings as they pop into my head. Right before I decided to pick up my phone and type out what was happening I had been staring at the dark ceiling of my room hoping and praying for sleep to come. 

I don’t know why I can’t sleep. I want to sleep. I need to sleep. But I just can’t. Every time I close my eyes a new thought pops into my head. I must remember it somehow. I’ll get up to write it down. There’s singing coming from the club down the road that I just can’t put to the back of my mind and ignore. There’s also a slight crack in my door where the light peeps through just a little bit too much. My phone beeps. My laptop flashes. A car alarm goes off. 

Now I realise, there’s so much going on around me it’s virtually impossible for me to switch off my mind. There is a whole lot going on in my life right now and sleep is not a number one priority even though it should be. Without sleep my mind and body doesn’t have the time to recouperate and process the day and get ready for the next. I have noticed that my productivity has reached a low and it definitely has something so do with the amount of sleep (quality sleep) I’m getting. 

I tend to go through phases of good and bad sleep. Some weeks I’ll be in bed early and ready to start the day the next morning. Other times I’m up until silly hours in the morning (like tonight) doing goodness knows what and wasting valuable sleep time.

It’s time to put away the devices. Read a book instead of Facebook before bed. Sleep early, wake early. Get my sleeping pattern under control. 

And on that note, my eyes are drooping. 

Goodnight.

Abbie ❤

Student Life

From the age of about 14 I’d always assumed that I would go to university when I got older because it’s what most of my older friends or relatives had done themselves. It seems scary at that time to think that some day in the future I would be living on my own in a city possibly quite far away from home studying one subject for 3 to 4 years. And it didn’t get any less scary the closer it got.

I started properly thinking about going to university in my first year of college but even then I wasn’t so sure as to whether it was the right way to go. However, my friends were all going so I decided it would be a good idea too. That and I had absolutely no idea what kind of job or other things I wanted to do after college was finished. At 16/17 years old it’s hard to know exactly where you want to go in life so opening your options with a degree under your belt seems like a pretty strong way to start.


Choosing a uni…

For me choosing a uni was very easy and I’d pretty much already decided before I’d even looked around anywhere. I wanted somewhere close to home but not too close. Somewhere with a good reputation and facilities. And somewhere where I knew at least one person so I wouldn’t feel so alone.


First year…

During my first year I questioned whether I really wanted to be there a whole lot. The first week included a whole host of emotions. I missed home but I loved my new friends. I was worried about impending lectures but excited to know what would be in store for me.

As I got more and more settled in to the student halls I became much more confident. Throughout school and college I had always been “the quiet one” and would never be the first to say hello. I think it helped a lot that I came to uni with my life long best friend. Although people will tell you, “don’t just choose a uni because your friends are going there!” it definitely was an important factor for me and really helped me to feel at home in a completely alien environment.

17270045_1327035920712498_2040743440_nI was kind of lucky in the sense that my first year of uni didn’t count towards my final grade so had the chance to really jump into the student culture. If you are in this situation just remember that although your first year seems like a chance to go out partying every single night, it is also a stepping stone towards your second year and you do need to learn how to actually study and write essays! Yes, partying may seem like the number one priority as a brand new student but you are primarily there to learn and do the best you possibly can so find a balance between the two. I’m not saying turn down every invitation but make sure you have time for yourself too.


Overall…?

Now half way through my second year I definitely wouldn’t have changed anything I have done. For me, university has not only been a learning experience on an academic level, it’s been a massive learning curve for me personally. I feel I’ve grown as a person and learned so much about myself that I may not have got the chance to experience if I’d gone straight into work. I’ve realized my passion for journalism and love for experiencing new things. But most of all, I’ve got the chance to make tonnes of amazing memories and made some lifelong friends along the way.

Abbie ❤